Know Your Gifts; Live Your Best Life

I’m always writing and talking about why it’s so important to know what your gifts are so that you can align your work and life with them. It was great for me to read what someone else had to say about it. David attended our workshop this past weekend. Here is his blog post on the topic. Copy the URL into your browser if the link doesn’t work

http://in2deep.wordpress.com/2012/02/07/sacred-gifts/

Thank you David for this well written piece. You captured it all beautifully.

Focus On What You Want to Experience

Focus on what you want for the holiday season. Keep your eye off the “busy” feeling. For me I want a week filled with fun, family, friends, food, frolicking, festivities, surprises and lots of love and connection. I keep my eye only on that and when I feel myself going to the stress place of shopping I shift my attention to the things I want and then the path getting there seems less stressful. I also set really clear intentions before I do any shopping. My intention was to stay out of busy malls unless it’s to buy something for me. The night I did go it was not busy and it was easy to find what I wanted…. GREAT strappy black shoes….  I expect to find what I want and if I don’t know what I want for someone I expect it to show up and that I’ll know it’s perfect for that person. I put a lot of demands ( in a reverent and loving way ) on the Universe/ God/ my team of angels at this time of year. If I try and do it alone it just gets to be too much. Yesterday I was so happy that while I was at Maya’s for a healing treatment I got to see the most magnificent hand made soaps she makes and they were a perfect gift for some on my list.  I did many many years of super shopping stressed out Christmases… Not any more. I keep my eye on the outcome I want and I keep focused on giving my Sacred Gifts to others and receiving from God through others.

Take your attention off how others will behave or what they will do. If your Aunt Mary is a pain in the butt at Christmas dinners and you’re wanting her to behave remember to reframe into what you want. Instead of ” I want Aunt Mary to stay sober and behave” try.. I am wanting to enjoy my Christmas Day more than any other Christmas past… no matter what happens”  Now it’s in your power and not Aunt Mary’s to determine the way you feel on that day.

Give it a shot. You’ve got nothing to lose except the stress and frustration of a busy holiday season.

Merry Christmas and God bless you

 

Spiritual Gifts vs. Sacred Gifts

I often get asked what the difference is between Spiritual Gifts and Sacred Gifts.  The short answer is: not much. In 2003 I participated in a church program that introduced me to the idea that I had within me ‘spiritual gifts’. This fascinated me and sent me on a path from which I’ve never actually returned.

I was compelled to study everything I could about ‘spiritual’ gifts only to discover that outside of a religious or church context there wasn’t much information to be found.

Most new thought teachings do elude to  gifts and current popular spiritual authors/ teachers like Wayne Dyer, Caroline Myss and Marianne Williamson stress the importance of aligning with your gifts.  No one however seemed to be providing a map on how to find them outside the church. I was determined to do that and to make the map available to people who will never set foot in a church yet who long to live a life that is congruent and authentic.

The program that I initially took through the Catholic church taught me about 26 of these very specific ‘spiritual’ gifts of which I was showing evidence of a couple. Though initially ticked off that I didn’t show evidence of all 26 of them, I soon came to understand that this was the whole idea of gifts. I’ve got some that can benefit you and you’ve got some that can benefit me and if I had them all I wouldn’t need you in my life or anyone else for that matter. I could exhaust myself by trying to do it all myself. OH! This is what many of us do anyway isn’t it?

I was clear that knowing my gifts had changed the course of my life once I aligned my self with them. It was so so freeing.  Knowing which gifts were not mine was equally if not more freeing. I am not Miss Hospitality.. nor have I ever been, nor will I ever be.  I am not super creative in terms of making beautiful things but my sisters are. I’m not psychic and I’m not a brilliant writer! But I can teach and I can counsel and I can advise even on things I shouldn’t know anything about. This speaks to the awesomeness of gifts. I can do things I have not been trained to do, shouldn’t even be able to do and so can you.

After completing my training in gift discernment  I was CLEAR this was my path. I was not so clear that I was to teach a religious program. Actually I was clear that I was being guided to not teach a religious program. Not because I have anything against religion, but because I was being clearly guided from the inside to take it in a new direction. Thus the birth of the Sacred Gifts program and naming the gifts ‘sacred’ vs. ‘spiritual’.

Not much difference to most people however a big difference for me. I wanted to give the message clearly that these gifts are to be treated with reverence and respect.. thus choosing the word ‘sacred’ and I wanted to depart from the connection to the religious teachings around gifts. Spiritual Gifts are also often referred to as Gifts of the Holy Spirit in Christian language and they are taught to the followers as ways for them to find out how they can best ‘build up the church’.  My passion is to build people. My passion is to help people understand the amazing gifts placed in them by a loving Source.  Applying them only to how they can manifest in churches isn’t as real to me as wanting to help people apply them where they spend most of their lives.. working and in their family and community.

I didn’t want anyone to miss out on the opportunity to completely reinvent their life and to  love their life by not knowing they were gifted. Whether they belong to a church or not is of no significance to me whatsoever.

The program I developed only looks at 24 gifts. I dropped Speaking in Tongues and Interpretation of Tongues. Not that I don’t think these are gifts, they are referenced as such in scripture however it just didn’t seem like a good fit outside the church circle to be talking about Tongues at all.  I have stayed true to the other 24 gifts.

Call them what you want: Spiritual Gifts, Gifts of the Holy Spirit or Sacred Gifts. It matters less what you call them. What really matters is discovering what yours are and then beginning to create your authentic life by aligning with them. This is what will lead you to a life filled with purpose and passion.

www.yoursacredgifts.com

 

 

 

Finding Your Gifts Opens New Unknown Doors

This is a wonderful story that Kelly shared with me. Beautiful example of her gift in writing.. and her raw honest feelings on her journey to uncovering and accepting her Gifts.
Sacred Gifts – A Year in Review
This time last year I was invited by a co-worker to a Sacred Gifts workshop and, somewhat reluctantly, accepted the invite. Frankly I was tired of other people’s spiritual programs and the suggestion that, perhaps, I needed one too. Too often I feel the pressure to twist myself into the teachings they offered when all I really wanted was to  know what God wants me to do and how to be happy doing it.
From the beginning, I watched and listened, all the while comparing myself with others, worrying what my co-workers would think of me and envying those who seemed to already know that they were in the right place. I admired those who walked up to me, shook my hand and pronounced their intentions and goals. Meanwhile, I participated with others in the room secretly hoping that if I shared a deep or vunerable moment they wouldn’t hold it against me.
Bit by bit however, I found myself nodding and resonating with the descriptions of the gifts. I found that Monique wasn’t telling me who I was or claiming any spiritual authority, she was simply creating a space to explore each gift one-by-one. I could see, from the rows of heads bobbing, that the other people in the room were feeling this way too.
By the end of day one I had accepted that I needed to relax, wait and finish the process we had began. I had begun to trust that Monique was going to lead us all to our answers and I would simply have to wait for the “assignment” of my gift.  I was tired but my reluctance had eroded and was replaced by a feeling of hope.
Day two the world was different. I was going to know for sure. The second guesses where floating around in my head. My coworkers predicted Writing (which I secretly hoped for) and I predicted Service (which I kind of dreaded). I had no clue. Which gift would be mine? More patience, more process and then finally my gift was revealed. Wisdom. I have the gift of Wisdom? Really? That wasn’t on my list of top picks. Me? Wise?
But it made sense. All my life I’ve been an accidental counselor. People come to me when they are really confused about big issues in their life sometimes reconnecting with me after years of no contact. They always say the same thing, “I know you won’t tell me what I want to hear but what I need to know.” But that manifestation of the gift often left me worried and overwhelmed by other’s problems and a bad habit of focusing on the negative. Many times I doubted if  my counsel was helping or hurting others. How could this be a gift if it was so conflicted? I didn’t get it.In short order two other gifts tied for second place. Encouragement and Facilitation. Funny how they fit together isn’t it? Bits of my life came into focus and the faces of people I’ve helped flashed before me (a little life review as it were). Perhaps these gifts were true too. I was able to lift spirits, find solutions and teach others. But again there was this shadow side. Sometimes these gifts manifested in resentment of always having to be the cheerleader or exhausted by doing things for others that they should do for themselves. Shouldn’t these gifts just bring me bliss and joy? What’s the deal with that?
After the workshop I decided that I needed some more help from Monique to find the balance. After one session on the telephone it was obvious that I needed to answer a single life-changing question. Was I using my gifts as a channel for God’s work or to get people to like me? Ouch. A pin-pointed observation of my Achilles heel – the need to be liked. I had to learn that when I channel the gifts well I might have to be, not just loving, but perhaps a little tough if the need arises and risk disapproval. If I’m not open to exploring my need to be liked, things can get, well, interesting. I’ve learned a lot about my tendancy to do the right thing but for the wrong reasons and the need to fogive myself for doing so.
So I decided that 2011 was my year of understanding, forgiveness and going within. There’s a few more months to go but by applying the gifts of Wisdom, Encouragement and Facilitation I’ve been lead closer to true connections with others and developed a compassionate honesty for myself. It’s a very positive force and evolution in my spirtual and personald development. I can now trust that when they are called for, the Sacred Gifts will work through me for the benefit of others without negative repurcussions. That seems to be working for me.
I am happy to report that, since then, nothing in my external world has really changed. No life path revelations. No new job and Heaven knows, no extra money. What has changed is my inner world. Slowly and progressively I’ve built an unshakable understanding and confidence in myself.  I’ve be able, for the first time in my life, to move forward and get unstuck. I’d tell you more but I want to keep things to myself for a just little while longer.
Warmest Regards
K .P.

Sometimes You Just Have To Wait

The Universe works according to the readiness of our soul. The Universe isn’t coersive or forceful. It waits upon us and knows our readiness to receive and use our gifts. We are guided according to perfect timing should we choose to invite that experience. When the timing is right the actions needed are more effortless and seem like the next natural step. The other option is to try and make it happen. When fear is operating in me then I tend to want to try and force things to happen or make things happen which often doesn’t turn out quite like I expected so now what I do is put more time and effort into first collaborating with the Universe/ God. I ask for what I want and I ask for support in making it happen. Usually I begin to see evidence quite quickly and the next step shows itself. Then I have to overcome the skepticism in my mind that it really is the next step. Is this God showing me something or is this me wanting to see something that really isn’t there yet? When I have consciously spent time asking for what I want and drawing up a contract with the Universe that I’ll hold up my end of the agreement, I know that likely whats in front of me IS for me to act on. When I try and figure it out in my head or try and force something to be because I’m in a fear place then it all seems like hard work and usually ends up frustrating me. If there isn’t any flow at all and it all seems like an uphill climb then it usually is and I’m not following the Universe’s gentle nudges. Both approaches may get you there and actually I think that it’s helpful to spend a few years pushing at things uphill in order to get tired enough to say.. Screw this! I need help. That’s when I’m ready to connect and ask both the Universe and others for help. I’ll be explaining the cycle of knowing when to act and knowing when to wait in the next blog.